stop letting people trigger you

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Have you ever considered that being “triggered” is giving someone else free real estate in your mind? Seriously, think about it. Every time you let someone’s words or actions get under your skin, you’re handing them power they didn’t even earn. Why would you want to do that?

Hey, I get it. We all have things that make us tick—topics that feel personal, comments that hit too close to home. But here’s the real talk: letting people trigger you doesn’t say anything about them. It only says something about you. And if you want to be the confident, self-assured woman you claim to be, you’ve got to stop letting others push your buttons.

What Does “Triggered” Even Mean?
Let’s break it down. When we talk about being “triggered,” what we’re really saying is, “This person or situation made me feel something I didn’t want to feel.” That’s it. It’s just an emotional reaction. But somewhere along the way, society started acting like it’s normal—almost expected—to let these reactions derail us. People use the word “triggered” like it’s a get-out-of-jail-free card for blowing up, shutting down, or spiraling. And honestly? That’s not cute, not productive, and definitely not empowering.

Why It’s a Problem
Here’s why this matters: when you let yourself be easily triggered, you’re making your emotions everyone else’s responsibility. You’re saying, “It’s on you not to offend me,” instead of saying, “It’s on me to stay in control.” That’s a weak position to put yourself in, and we all know you’re better than that.

Think about it: how often do people say or do things on purpose just to upset you? Probably not as often as you think. Most of the time, people are too wrapped up in their own lives to even notice what might bother you. So when you react like the world is out to get you, you’re giving random strangers—or worse, people who don’t matter—way too much credit.

The Science of It All
Here’s where it gets really interesting. Being triggered isn’t just a mindset; it’s a physiological response. Your brain perceives a threat—whether it’s real or just imagined—and sends you into fight-or-flight mode. Your heart races, your palms sweat, and boom—you’re spiraling.

But guess what? The same brain that triggers that response can also shut it down. Studies show that practicing mindfulness, self-awareness, and emotional regulation can literally rewire your brain to stay calm under pressure. In other words, you have the tools to stop being triggered. You just need to use them.

How to Take Your Power Back
So, what’s the solution? How do you stop letting people trigger you? It all comes down to one thing: owning your reactions.

Pause Before Reacting
When something sets you off, take a beat. Breathe. Instead of firing off that snarky comeback or letting your emotions take over, ask yourself, “Why is this bothering me? Does this person’s opinion actually matter?” Nine times out of ten, the answer is no.

Reframe the Situation
Not every comment is an attack. Sometimes, people are just clueless or having a bad day. Instead of assuming the worst, try giving them the benefit of the doubt—or better yet, don’t assume anything at all.

Set Boundaries Like a Boss
If someone in your life keeps poking at the same sore spots, it’s okay to set boundaries. But here’s the key: do it calmly and confidently, not out of anger. “Hey, I’d appreciate it if we didn’t talk about that topic,” works way better than snapping, “You’re so toxic!”

Work on Your Triggers
The truth is, triggers are a reflection of your own insecurities. If someone’s comment about your career, body, or relationships stings, it’s probably because you’re not 100% secure in that area. So instead of blaming them, focus on building yourself up. When you’re confident, nothing they say will faze you.

Why This Makes You Stronger
Here’s the thing: the world isn’t going to stop being messy. People will say dumb stuff. Situations will test you. That’s life. But when you stop being easily triggered, you become untouchable. You show the world—and yourself—that you’re in control of your emotions.

And that’s real power. That’s the kind of energy that gets you noticed, respected, and admired. Not just because you’re calm and collected, but because you’re confident enough to know that no one else’s words define you.

So, next time someone says or does something that makes you want to flip out, remember this: you’re not a puppet. No one’s pulling your strings but you. Don’t let them. Because the moment you stop being triggered, you start being unstoppable.

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