how to stop catching feelings

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Have you ever considered that catching feelings is basically self-sabotage?

Yeah, I said it. Falling for someone can feel great… until it doesn’t. And if you’re here, chances are you’re tired of getting swept up in the emotional chaos. So let’s talk about how to stop catching feelings—because you’ve got better things to do than lose yourself in someone else.

Why We Catch Feelings
First, let’s get one thing straight: catching feelings isn’t some magical, uncontrollable phenomenon. It’s a mix of biology, psychology, and, let’s be honest, boredom.

Here’s the science-y part: your brain releases dopamine and oxytocin—feel-good chemicals—when you’re attracted to someone. It’s literally like being on a drug. Add in a little attention from that person, and bam, you’re hooked.

But here’s where the self-sabotage kicks in: you start over-prioritizing them. Your energy shifts from being the main character in your own life to being a side character in theirs. And girl, you deserve better than that.

Recognizing the Warning Signs
So how do you know you’re slipping into “feelings territory”? It usually starts small:

Checking your phone for their texts like it’s a full-time job.
Daydreaming about what their last emoji really meant.
Canceling plans because they’re suddenly free to hang out.
Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve all been there. But recognizing these signs early is the first step to staying in control. The second you start centering your life around someone else, it’s time to hit pause and recalibrate.

How to Stop the Spiral
Alright, let’s get to the good stuff: how to shut this feelings factory down.

Keep Your Options Open
One person shouldn’t be your entire focus. Date multiple people, even if it’s just for fun. This isn’t about being shady—it’s about reminding yourself that no single person should take up that much of your mental real estate.

Stay Busy With Your Own Life
Feelings often creep in when you’ve got too much time on your hands. So, fill your schedule with things that light you up. Start a new hobby, hit the gym, binge-watch that show—whatever keeps your mind occupied and your mood up.

Reframe Your Perspective
Here’s a mindset shift: instead of asking, “Do they like me?” ask, “Do I even like them?” Seriously. Do they meet your standards? Are they as ambitious, interesting, and fabulous as you are? Nine times out of ten, they’re not.

Limit Contact
If you feel yourself slipping, pull back. Don’t text them first, and definitely don’t stalk their social media. Give yourself space to regain your emotional independence.

Remember Your Worth
This one’s big. Remind yourself who you are. You’re not someone who waits around hoping to be chosen. You choose. You’ve got goals, dreams, and a whole life to live. Feelings are cute, but they’re not worth sacrificing your power for.

The Emotional Detox
If you’re already in deep, it’s time for an emotional detox. Here’s how:

Go Cold Turkey: Stop talking to them for a while. No calls, no texts, no “I was just thinking about you” messages.
Journal It Out: Write down everything you’re feeling. Sometimes, putting it on paper helps you see it for what it is: a passing phase.
Redirect Your Energy: Pour your feelings into something productive. Start a side hustle, revamp your wardrobe, or crush it at work.
It’s not easy, but trust me, you’ll thank yourself later.

Here’s the deal: catching feelings isn’t a bad thing. It just becomes a problem when it takes you away from your best self. So, next time you feel the butterflies, ask yourself: “Is this worth my time?” Because time is something you can’t get back—and you deserve to spend it on things (and people) that truly matter.

Stay focused, stay fabulous, and remember: you’re the prize.

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